pull of the whisperChallenge my mind.

Intrigue me.

Pique my curiosity.

Move me.

Make me laugh.

Please just don’t try to sell or subscribe or impress me before you’ve done any of those things!

I’ve been doing lots of research as I write my next book which means I’m visiting lots of new web sites and blogs.

On some (too many!) I’m bombarded with popups within seconds of opening the page—Enroll! Subscribe! Buy! Don’t miss! It was like being in the presence of a carnival barker trying to rack up the numbers.

Consultant Steve Tobak calls this behavior “me2me.” It is a noisy world out there, and we do have to find ways to make our voices heard.

Yet, as author Lindsay Buroker writes, “As with most things, there are good ways to go about it [self-promotion] and bad ways; or, as I’m calling them, shameless and shameful ways.”

There’s a big difference between tooting your horn and using a 300-member marching band to do it.

Loud isn’t the answer. The pull of the whisper is.

Power of the whisper

Give me a reason to engage.

Being a blind consumer is shameful – why sign-up to receive dozens of blogs only to hit the delete button without reading them? If a site’s content is informative or inspiring, I’ll gladly visit, subscribe, or share. But there’s no way for me to know if your message teaches, tests, provokes or exhilarates me without having first had the opportunity to experience it. Let me savor the flavor before throwing the sales pitch (or telling me how great you are) my way.

Go beyond self-interest.

Character-based leaders believe you can be a leader without the leader: being someone who focuses more on “we” and less on “me.” Build a relationship, make a connection, challenge the mind, and inspire the heart. Life is a perpetual teeter-totter ride between selfish and selfless acts. Don’t get unbalanced.

Stop trying so hard.

There’s something incredibly mesmerizing about someone who manages to have both confidence and humility. Conversely, someone full of hubris and arrogance is off-putting. One pulls you toward them, the other pushes you away. I’m not interested in the fact (???) that you earned $95,000 last month. I am interested in how your experiences made you a better person or how your ideas made a positive difference for others. Grace and authenticity are irresistible magnets.

Because the world is raucous, people believe they must be loud and pushy to be heard. For me, it’s the pull of the whisper.

We all just have to remember to listen for it.

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“If you listen quietly enough life will whisper its secrets to you” ~Rasheed Ogunlaru

“Sometimes the world seems like a big hole. You spend all your life shouting down it and all you hear are echoes of some idiot yelling nonsense down a hole.” ~Adam Duritz  

“Goodness speaks in a whisper, evil shouts.” ~Tibetan Proverb

“Arrogance and rudeness are training wheels on the bicycle of life — for weak people who cannot keep their balance without them.” ~Laura Teresa Marquez

“Let not thy will roar, when thy power can but whisper.” ~Thomas Fuller