by Marsha Friedman | Workplace tips
I once agreed to be a guest on a radio talk show. I thought we would be discussing marketing tips. Not so!
The radio hosts had noticed that in addition to me, my husband, two sons and a daughter-in-law all worked at EMSI Public Relations. So rather than talking about marketing, the hosts asked me about the dynamics of working in a business with so many family members.
Before answering that question, I pointed that there were even more family members working at EMSI—a mother and daughter and in the past other married couples!
In light of that, I observed that our whole company is like one big family, whether or not the employees are related by blood or marriage.
In that regard, EMSI is not unusual. According to the Small Business Administration, 90 percent of small businesses are family owned and operated.
We are certainly not perfect, but I think we owe some of our business’s success to learning how to work every day alongside the people we married or gave birth to.
3 tips for peaceful co-existence in a family-run business
Here are three things I’ve discovered that can help keep things running smoothly when family and business mix.
#1) Arrange for the entire staff to spend fun time together.
This is important for nurturing genuine caring, which is essential to forming a tight-knit team, or a tight-knit family. Co-workers who care about one another tend to jump in to help when they see someone struggling, so whatever is broken get fixed…fast. Co-workers encourage one another and are more honest about their feelings, which means conflicts are aired and resolved, not allowed to fester.
Some of that caring comes from spending time together doing non-work activities, like taking a Friday afternoon off so the whole office could go bowling. These fun events help relationships expand and grow.
#2) Don’t talk about work during your commute—or once you get home.
For many younger married couples with children, this may be easy. They head straight from the office to the day care to pick up their kids. From then until bedtime, it is all about the children.
However, for my husband and me, it is too easy to rehash the day’s events, dissect problems, or work through plans after we leave the office. So instead of giving in to this temptation to extend the workday even longer, we talk about family matters, friends, movies, or what we are going to do on the weekend ahead. It is important to have a healthy interest in concerns and activities beyond the office walls; you cannot be happy if you are consumed by only one aspect of your life.
#3) If there is a quarrel, whether it is between family members or unrelated employees, keep it contained.
Some experts say you should never display anger at work, and others say doing so can be a good thing. But I cannot think of any instance when people who witness a blow-up are more productive, creative, resourceful or innovative in the aftermath.
Angry outbursts create tension, and when you are really angry, you are likely to say things you later wish no one else had heard. At our office, tempers do occasionally flare. Most of us take those arguments for a walk outside or at least close the office door to resolve our differences without upsetting everyone else.
In my perspective, the benefits of working with husbands, sons and daughters far outweigh any disadvantages.
Doing so builds the culture of family, one that, if you are lucky, not only draws everyone in the office together, but extends to your clients as well.
What’s been your experience in balancing work and life with lots of family members at work?
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Today’s guest contributor is Marsha Friedman, a public relations expert, founder/CEO of EMSI Public Relations, author, advisor on PR issues and strategies, and speaker.
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by Brady Wilson | Workplace tips
You may not realize it, but your organization is home to an incredibly powerful operating system (O/S).
Think outside the realm of technology. What has the potential to engage and energize your employees, bring teams closer together, and create a high-performing workforce?
It’s conversation.
Conversation is the common denominator behind “apps” like customer service, feedback, coaching, strategy and innovation. Conversation—that is, quality, meaningful conversation between leaders and employees—powers up all the things that make a business successful.
Not sure you agree that conversation is your organization’s most mighty O/S? Consider what would happen without conversation. All those apps would crash—and your business would fail.
Talking heads
Let’s go a bit more “micro” and look at the human brain.
Conversation is, essentially, our brain’s O/S. This is because every single message transmitted from one neuron to another enables us to see, hear, move…and think. If all those 100 billion neurons were to stop talking to one another, our bodies and ability to process information would cease to function.
Meanwhile, science shows us that our own brains are significantly strengthened and enhanced by social conversations “between brains.” This is our native wiring: and consequently, the perfect O/S that we need to connect, understand and harmonize with others.
So, as neuronal conversations are the way the brain gets things done, employee conversations are the way that organizations get things done.
With this in mind, then, why do organizations not integrate conversation into their own employee engagement initiatives?
Ignoring conversation = missed opportunities
Using engagement surveys as an example, consider how organizations often deal with results.
Rather than pause to consider the “why” behind results, leaders will rush to create strategies—one-size-fits-all, broad-brush strategies built on nothing but numbers.
But employees do not respond well to global solutions. They want to know that they have been listened to. Leaders who draft plans without taking time to consider context or “backstory” practically guarantee employee non-compliance to any engagement initiative.
Organizations that ignore the importance of conversation are missing out on a range of opportunities to create a higher-performing workforce.
Here’s why: science shows that when you have meaningful, face-to-face conversations that demonstrate value, respect and care, this boosts the brain’s processing power—forming a feel-good energy cocktail of connection, calm, concentration, creativity and curiosity. Essentially, conversation can deepen the leader-employee relationship, energize employees, and power those apps that make a business so successful.
No time to talk?
Don’t feel you have time to talk to your employees?
Consider this: concerns that are unaddressed tend to fester and simmer. And then…they turn into “crucial,” “fierce” or “difficult” conversations—consuming multiples of energy, time and mind-space from everyone in the organization.
Leaders save themselves a lot of headaches when they move beyond engagement as we know it today, and honor how the brain works.
And not only that: conversations don’t have to take up a lot of time.
Short, simple “Energy Check” conversations are a proven and effective way to unlock insight and possibility in your employees’ minds. It can be as simple as asking employees what is energizing them at the moment, and what is depleting their energy. Done systematically, this technique can catch issues before they become calamity-based, saving time in the process.
Easy to install
Conversation already exists in your organization. It’s simply up to leaders to embrace it as the key operating system that drives the business—and shifting their mindset to include conversation in all engagement endeavors. This generates energy, fueling a great customer experience as well as business results.
Sound good to you?
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Today’s guest contributor is Brady Wilson, co-founder of Juice Inc., a corporate training company. This article is based on principles from Brady’s latest book, Beyond Engagement: A Brain-Based Approach That Blends the Engagement Managers Want with the Energy Employees Need. Follow Brady on Twitter @BradyJuiceInc or visit his site.
by Maxine Attong | Workplace tips
Getting your people to contribute more to your organization while simultaneously establishing stronger talent retention must cost a pretty penny, right?
Not really.
You don’t necessarily need to add expensive new ingredients to the stew; you just have to know how to use your ingredients better.
A talented chef—or in this case, a corporate or organizational leader—knows how to let an ingredient speak for itself, perhaps with just a touch of seasoning or guidance.
What is the guidance—is it competition or is it incentives such as bonuses?
Not exactly.
Most employees want to have more input. However, personal issues, fear of being laughed at, or the anxiety of not getting credit can stymie contributions from a leader’s staff.
If a leader can engender a real sense of trust, the organization will benefit from the ingenuity of both the individual and the team.
A reliable way of establishing a trusting climate and culture is to make team members feel safe.
5 ways to build a workplace culture where people feel safe
1) Share responsibility; practice “I” statements.
With openness, encourage interaction by having team members and leaders enforce the rules and monitor the use of common space. When members break the rules, the team discusses the problems and decides on the sanctions and steps necessary to assist the member in following the rules next time. Speakers are discouraged from using the word “you.” Instead, they use “I.”
This simple yet effective practice encourages personal culpability and discourages blame.
Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility. ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer
2) Consistency.
Teams need to consistently follow the agreed-upon rules as they set the boundaries and the tone for relationships. Following the rules makes the behavior in the space predictable, which limits uncertainty and increases feelings of safety.
Consistent application of the rules helps the team to increase trust as behavior becomes prescriptive and members know more or less what will happen in the room and how they will be treated.
There must be consistency in direction. ~W. Edwards Deming
3) Judgment.
The members must feel that they are not being judged.
If someone says that an idea is bad, the speaker will shut down and feel embarrassed. In the future that speaker will hesitate to give ideas since he feels his ideas may not be good enough for the team. Less confident team members may refrain from presenting their ideas if they are uncertain of their quality. However, as we all know too well, many ideas that seem strange or unorthodox at first can wind up being some of the best.
To sit in judgment of those things which you perceive to be wrong or imperfect is to be one more person who is part of judgment, evil or imperfection. ~Wayne Dyer
4) Good intentions.
Not all team members are effective communicators, so it may be difficult for some people to frame and cogently express their thoughts. Assume all team members have good intentions and want a positive outcome. Even though what you are hearing may be contrary to that assumption, hold on to the thought so that you can fully understand what the member is saying before you react.
When listening this way, the leader delays having a reaction and has time to assess the situation before responding. When the leader has emotionally detached from the situation, he can then ask questions to clarify the situation.
Although actions may speak louder than words, it is our intentions that reveal our soul. ~Hal Elrod
5) Norming.
By this point in the culture building process, team members seem to embrace each other, and there is a spirit of togetherness. Do not be fooled by this. This response doesn’t mean that your team has normed and that each team member is making decisions that advance the goals of the team. It means that the safe space concept has allowed them to see each other in a more neutral light so they can accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses without judgment.
While this “understanding space” may act as an accelerator or catalyst for the team to norm, it is not magic. It does not mean that whatever problems existed within the team or workplace culture before have miraculously disappeared. The leader still needs to pay attention and check the team temperature. Regular team meetings and team building sessions should still be conducted.
Which of these five ways is your favorite?
What other investments in people do you suggest?
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Today’s guest contributor is Maxine Attong, Gestalt Organizational Development practitioner, Certified Evidence-Based Coach, Certified Professional Facilitator, Certified Management Accountant and former Quality Manager. Maxine’s latest book is Lead Your Team to Win: Achieve Optimal Performance By Providing A Safe Space For Employees.
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Many times a certain technique that is referred to as “coaching” isn’t really it at all; it’s actually counseling or feedback.
For example, you may have heard or had this happen to you. A manager will say, “Let me give you some coaching around ABC.”
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Early in my business career, my wife asked me if I knew what I was doing.
I assured her I did.
Since then, my experience taught me I was wrong. The truth was that back then I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
I know now three elements—learning, leadership and awareness—are crucial for long-term business success.
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Having a degree doesn’t guarantee getting a job or even being job-ready. I’m the son of a businessperson, and after four weeks of business school, I realized that the professor had no real-life experience in running a business. I wasn’t going to learn from him the practical principles necessary to succeed. (more…)
